🧡 Every mother, every baby, every birth is incredible 🧡
A natural birth maybe what our bodies intend to do but sometimes it doesn’t happen that way, and I have experienced this twice! Women who have chosen this way to give birth or had to do so to keep themselves and their babies safe, have often said they have been made to feel ashamed of this type of experience but I’m here to tell you its not the easy way out
Having a #caesarean
was not my ideal plan for either of my birth’s, but it’s what I needed. I fought hard with both to go the natural way and it was this that allowed me to grow, showed me my full strength, and broke me at the same time. My birth experience was everything I wanted to avoid when I wrote out the birth plan but, in the end, it was the way I welcomed both my boys earth side. And now I have two adorable boys that are healthy and happy, well most of the time 😂
A caesarean is scary, its unknown, it’s a complete loss of control, it’s a surgical procedure, its someone else getting to hold your baby before you do, its freezing and bright, it’s a lot of things and it’s taken me a long time to get my head around it. And as April is International caesarean awareness month, I think it’s important to talk about it and share our experiences. It also highlights that every birth is so different even if they do follow a similar procedure.
With Alex, my caesarean was an emergency. I didn’t have much say in what we would like to have happen or how it would happen. I asked for 5 minutes to digest the information and get my head around the fact of having a caesarean and even that was rushed.
With Theo, I desperately wanted to go natural but again it wasn’t to be the case. Warning signs started to show, and I was booked in straight away to have my baby. Although this experience was a lot calmer than my first, the recovery was harder. One of my biggest struggles was not being able to lift Alex for the recommended 6 weeks and even then, I was still too weak in abdomen. After all this virus stuff is over, I'm booking into the physio.
It is a long road to recovery, so please be kind on yourself afterwards. If you ever want to chat, I am here for you Xx